A trader is telling me to send them money before I can see the crypto in escrow.
If the crypto is in escrow, it will say so. However you should never send anything without first seeing the crypto in escrow. You can view the status of the trade in the Mixin Messenger.
A trader is pressuring me to release the escrow.
Under no circumstances is it OK to pressure another user into releasing the escrow early. Please open a payment dispute via the "Customer Service" button.